Respect is one of the first lessons taught in martial arts. It’s built into everything we do—the way we bow before starting class, the way we address our instructors, and the way we train with our partners. But respect isn’t just something we practice in class; it should carry over into every aspect of life.
Too often, people think of respect as something you give only to those who outrank you. In reality, real respect goes beyond titles, belts, or authority. It’s about how you treat everyone—your instructors, training partners, classmates, co-workers, family, and even strangers. And if you truly train in martial arts, respect isn’t something you turn on and off depending on where you are. It becomes part of who you are.
Respect for Instructors: Learning to Listen and Follow
One of the first things a martial artist learns is to respect their instructor. This isn’t just about bowing or saying “yes, sir” or “yes, ma’am”—it’s about trust. You trust that your instructor has the knowledge and experience to guide you. You trust that if they push you, it’s because they see your potential.
Some students struggle with this, especially if they have a hard time taking correction. But learning to accept feedback and apply it is a crucial part of growth—not just in martial arts, but in life. Whether it’s a boss giving instructions, a teacher offering guidance, or even a parent giving advice, respect teaches us to listen, learn, and improve.
Respect for Peers: Training as a Team
Martial arts isn’t a solo journey. Even though you may compete against others, true progress comes from training with your partners. If you don’t respect your training partners, you won’t get far.
Respect in training means controlling your techniques. It means not taking advantage of a less experienced partner just because you can. It means understanding that you’re both there to help each other get better. When both partners respect each other, they push each other to improve.
This kind of respect extends beyond the dojo. It teaches you how to work with others, how to communicate, and how to build strong relationships based on mutual trust.
Respect in Daily Life: Standing Out in a World That Forgets
We live in a time where respect and courtesy seem to be fading. People walk past each other without acknowledging one another, don’t say “excuse me” when they bump into someone, and barely look up from their phones when talking.
But martial artists should be different. If you train in martial arts, you should stand out—not just because of your skills, but because of your respect for others. That means looking people in the eye when you speak to them. Saying “please” and “thank you.” Holding the door for someone. Treating waitstaff, cashiers, and people you meet with the same respect you give to a black belt on the mats.
I can’t tell you how many times people have complimented my students just for being polite. And it’s not because they did anything extraordinary—it’s because common courtesy has become uncommon.
Respect is More Than a Rule—It’s a Way of Life
Some people see respect as a requirement in martial arts. You bow because you have to. You say “yes, sir” because it’s expected. But real respect isn’t just about following rules—it’s about understanding why those rules exist.
Martial arts doesn’t just teach you to fight. It teaches you to be a better person. And part of that means carrying yourself with respect—respect for your instructors, your training partners, and everyone you meet.
If you’re truly a martial artist, respect isn’t just something you show in the dojo. It’s something you live by.
What are some ways you practice respect outside of martial arts?